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ARE YOU INTO BDSM?

 

 

 

 

Do you enjoy BDSM?

Congratulations!

You are only a tiny step away to get into a full blown ecstatic tantric experience!

 So many people think kink and tantra don’t go together,

that BDSM is all about being harsh and mean to each other
and that tantra is all about feeling the soft love.

Both assumptions are not true.

As Barbara Carrellas mentions in her book: Urban Tantra,
“both are erotic arts of consciousness that produce intense erotic sensations that can create prolonged ecstatic states of arousal and altered states of consciousness”.

For most BDSM people it’s easier to get into tantric experiences than the “vanilla people”, because you already are familiar with the experience of erotic energy that merges from non-frictional body,  other than the genitals!

And we don’t have to go all woo-woo on chakras.

The body doesn’t need theories to feel what is happening.

Tantra is all about staying present,
feeling and acknowledging all that is happening in the body.

So what’s the difference with a regular BDSM session?

Well, more than playing out a fantasy, we will explore what is present in you.
(perhaps we wil explore a fantasy, but very present)
Which means we don’t follow strict, pre-set rules, we will go with what is needed in every moment.

This means there is space for any emotion to come out.
And this can be laughter, yet also sadness or anger.
As a trained therapist I welcome them all
and am able to support you
during this process.

Is this scary? Hell yes!!!

Only the very braves dare to go
into the dark realms of themselves!

Let’s talk formats:

What does a Tantric BDSM session look like?

First we’ll sit down to talk about you.
What your experiences are so far, what you hope to get out of the session.
And we will set our boundaries for mutual safety.

Then we’ll both get into the outfits that we are comfortable with.

 

We’ll do a short meditation,
or eye gazing or a more ritualistic beginning if we both see fit.

 

Body of the session:
within the previous set boundaries we’ll go into the BDSM dynamics
and flow with what’s there.
You will be in command all the time,
I am just there to guide you.

 

After the BDSM-part has finished, there is after-care space.
This can be a simple glass of water and a chat, or a cuddle-up,
or anything else that is needed for your wellbeing a that time.

 

In the week that follows after the session I will check in on you to see how you are doing, for many times “aha-moments” come when the experience settles in.